Write offs may be good or bad. Before April 15, we comb through our records looking for every possible deduction—the more the merrier. We write off our kids, our mortgage, our medical expenses, our charitable giving. That’s all good, for the more write offs we have the less we pay Uncle Sam. That has to do with our taxes, but we also write off things for other reasons. In fact we sometimes write off people.
Have you ever given up on someone? Perhaps, you have decided that he is inconsequential—no longer important to you. You are not going to waste anymore time or attention or energy on this person. So, you write him off.
Last Saturday I had an enlightening, and unexpected experience. I was scheduled to attend two funerals—the funeral for a church acquaintance and a memorial for a relative. Actually, I didn’t want to go to either, but out of duty, I decided to pay my respects to the son-in-law of my half-sister.
My family is kind of weird. Daddy was a lot older than my mother and had a passel of grown children when they were married. I rarely saw these older siblings, and since we never lived under the same roof, or even in the same state, it was difficult to think of them as brothers and sisters.
The widow of the man I was paying my respects to is my 87-year-old niece—older than I but niece none the less.
As I drove mile after mile through the desolate desert a thought came to mind. “If I were asked to say something to this group of people, most of whom I did not know at all, what would I say? With the exception of two or three, they were not church goers—God played very little part in their lives. I tried to dismiss the thought since there was little chance that the opportunity would arise. However, I couldn’t shake the idea knowing that God was directing my thoughts. I knew there was no planned service. There would be photos and recorded music, but no minister. Someone would read a couple of scriptures and friends were free to share.
I sat in the back of the room watching the milling people. Through the crowd, my niece spotted me. Her eyes were red from weeping. I felt sad for her. She had no children and few friends.
Taking my hand she asked, “Could you sing? Would you say something to the people? You can say something from the Bible if you want to.”
I was surprised, and yet, not really, for I knew The Lord had prepared me for this.
“I’m not prepared to sing,” I answered, “but we can all sing together. We can sing “Amazing Grace.” Everyone knows that. And, yes, I will say a few words, if you want.”
I knew exactly what I would say, for God had already dropped the words into my heart. I stood behind the podium and introduced myself. I told my audience that Dody is my niece. I admitted that I did not know her husband well and had no idea what he believed or what relationship he had with God.
Then I said, “I have come to tell you that God loves you—every one of you. He sent His Son, Jesus, to prove His love. The Bible says, in Romans 3:23, “All of us have sinned,” and in Romans 10:9, “…if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in our heart that God has raised Him from the dead, (we will be forgiven) we will be saved.”
I talked to them about the fact that Jesus went away to prepare a place for those who love Him. One day He will come again and take us there to live with Him forever. I shared the simple Gospel.
As I spoke, I was aware that something was happening in my heart. I no longer felt disconnected from this group. I realized I was looking at my father’s family. Dody was his granddaughter. In that audience there were great grandkids, at least one great, great grandson, a great, great, great grandson, and two great, great, great, great granddaughters. They were my family—an arm of my family that I had “written off” years ago. They made no effort. They never came around, so I didn’t either. My heart was touched when, after the service, they all came to introduce themselves. I’ll never look at them the same way again.
I am reminded of a cartoon I once saw. A little boy was defending himself against some criticism. He said, “I’m me and I’m special, ‘cause God made me. And God don’t make no junk!”
“God don’t make no junk!” He was right. God never made a throw away.
]You are God’s creation. He treasures you. Matthew, the apostle, tells us that not one sparrow falls to the ground but that God knows about it. Then he says in chapter 10:31, “…you are of more value than many sparrows.”
Regardless of how you are treated by others you are not inconsequential to God. He will not write you off. You are precious to Him, and He must become precious to you.
Remember the sun will come out tomorrow